Dec 19

Dec 19 Elozonam Opens Up on the Impact of “Japa” Culture on Relationships and Personal Life

Former Big Brother Naija star Elozonam has shared a heartfelt reflection on how the popular “japa” culture—the term used to describe the wave of Nigerians relocating abroad—has affected his personal relationships and view on friendships. Speaking on the Uncolored podcast, the reality star delved into the emotional toll of losing close connections to migration and the challenges of forming meaningful bonds in a society grappling with economic instability.

Elozonam revealed that the relocation of his twin brother and other siblings had strained their once-close relationship. He added that the exodus of friends, colleagues, and mentors abroad has significantly impacted his social life and trust in building new connections.

“The economic hardship in Nigeria is unbearable,” he said, acknowledging the push factors driving many Nigerians to seek better opportunities abroad. “Between 2018 to 2024, the first person that left my life was my boss when I was working a 9-5 job. We were close, but he moved to Canada with his family. After that, it’s like he opened the floodgate for everybody.”

Reluctance to Build New Friendships

Elozonam’s experience highlights a growing emotional hesitance among Nigerians to form deep connections. He explained, “The inherent effect of that is that you’re now too wary of making new friends because they might relocate abroad tomorrow. So everything is on the surface level now.”

This cautious approach reflects the uncertainty surrounding long-term relationships in a nation where migration is increasingly seen as the ultimate solution to persistent economic challenges. “Nigeria is not getting any better. We all know this,” he added somberly, summarizing the shared sentiment of disillusionment among many Nigerians.

Opinion: The Human Cost of “Japa” Culture

While the “japa” trend symbolizes hope for better opportunities, it also underscores a heartbreaking reality: the erosion of social networks and family ties. Elozonam’s candid revelations shed light on the hidden emotional costs of this migration wave. As Nigerians seek greener pastures, those left behind grapple with feelings of loneliness, abandonment, and a sense of societal stagnation.

The reluctance to form new friendships, as expressed by Elozonam, is a coping mechanism—a shield against the pain of losing loved ones to migration. However, this trend could have long-term implications for the social fabric of the country, leading to a community where relationships are transactional and fleeting.

Hope for Connection Amidst Uncertainty

While Elozonam’s story resonates with many, it also serves as a call for solutions. Can Nigeria reverse the tide by addressing the root causes of economic instability and social disillusionment? Can individuals find innovative ways to maintain meaningful relationships across borders?

The answers lie in collective action and intentional efforts to bridge the gaps left by migration. Whether through technology, frequent communication, or community-driven initiatives, maintaining human connection remains vital in navigating the challenges of a shifting social landscape.